Monday, November 9, 2009

#540. The Michael Oher Story


Question: What is 6'4 and 310 LBS. of cuddly warmth? If you answered Michael Oher, you would be correct.

Oher is a member of the National Football League and one of that organizations most prized employees, for he is also the subject of an upcoming movie that details his incredible life:
"The Blind Side" depicts the remarkable true story of Michael Oher, a homeless African-American youngster from a broken home, taken in by the Touhys, a well-to-do white family who help him fulfill his potential. At the same time, Oher's presence in the Touhys' lives leads them to some insightful self-discoveries of their own.

Living in his new environment, the teen faces a completely different set of challenges to overcome. As a football player and student, Oher works hard and, with the help of his coaches and adopted family, becomes an All-American offensive left tackle."
Be honest with yourself: what is more heartwarming and touching then a bourgeois white family opening their home to a down-trodden Black dude in need of an abode and vast amounts of tutoring to ensure he can stay eligible in high school to one day need even more tutoring to stay eligible in college?:

"Oher's father, murdered while Oher was a senior in high school, was not involved in his upbringing. His mother was addicted to crack cocaine. As a result, he received little constructive attention during his formative years. He repeated both first grade and second grade, and attended eleven different schools during his first nine years as a student. He also alternated between time spent in various foster homes and periods with no fixed address until he was sixteen years old.
That year, Oher applied for admission to a private school, Briarcrest Christian School, at the instigation of acquaintance Tony Henderson, with whom he was staying temporarily. Henderson was sending his son to the school in order to fulfill the dying wish of the boy's grandmother, and he decided that Oher might as well come along. Although the school's football coach was interested in Oher, school administrators did not feel that he was capable of handling the school's academic workload due to his scant educational background; however, he was admitted after he attempted to qualify for admission through a home-study program that removed him from the public education system.
A couple with a daughter at the school, Leigh Anne and Sean Tuohy, allowed Oher to move in with them and began taking care of his needs after becoming familiar with his difficult personal circumstances. They also connected him with a tutor, who worked with him for twenty hours a week. He eventually brought his 0.9 grade point average up to 2.65. Later, the Tuohy family adopted him."
Stuff Black People Don't Like has pointed out one truth that cuts to the core of modern America: were it not for sports, it would be next to impossible to find a positive example of Black people in America. Black Entertainment Television (BET) does a wonderful job in perpetuating negative stereotypes of Black people, as does all of gangsta rap and Chris Brown and Rihanna.

However, sports (especially football) offer a rare glimpse into an activity that Black people excel at, without any mention of affirmative action or special privileges being put in place to grant Black people a competitive advantage over white people.

Watching Football Night in America on NBC (or any NFL telecast) one would be led to believe that America is a land where Black people are worshiped (consider the NFL is 65 percent Black, yet the United States is only 13 percent Black), since the vast majority of spectators in the stands are white people.

Mr. Oher is an admirable chap, as he went to both the University of Mississippi and was the Token Black at his high school - demographically speaking, Briarcrest Christian School is hideously white.

Yet, this story doesn't have the fairy tale ending that it should have, because it bespeaks an uncomfortable truth to all Black people everywhere: the only way to true success in life - if you are a 6-4, 310 LBS. Black dude - is to be adopted by a rich white family where you can live a peaceful life, which is not available in the Black community.

Is the white community that much more stable than the life that Black people and Black fathers can provide their children? Since Hollywood is producing a movie, starring Sandra Bullock and Tim McGraw, based on Oher story, SBPDL would like to suggest that Hollywood is trying to say only white people are capable of raising non-white children in a loving, nurturing environment.

Why else would the commercials for this film be so ubiquitous on television? Had Oher never been adopted by this loving white family, then he would more than likely have failed out of his high school, never have played college football and never have been drafted by the Baltimore Ravens.

Instead, he would be a statistic, much like the ones denoted in this recent article:
"For example, most of the black characters in Mad Men have servile jobs. Today, of course, things are infinitely better. Black men are seldom seen in servile jobs (unless they are African immigrants or gay). In fact, black men aren’t seen in any jobs as much anymore: ten percent of black men were out of the work force in Don Draper’s 1960 versus 24 percent in booming 2000.

Indeed, black men aren’t even seen at all as much anymore because a million are now locked away in prison. (The incarceration rate of black male high school dropouts was
one percent in the Bad Old Days of Dwight Eisenhower’s last year in office versus 25 percent in Bill Clinton’s glorious finale.)"
The moral of the story is simple: Michael Oher would be in jail or the streets were it not for the benevolent actions of a white family to magnanimously welcome him into the home, where he found compassionate people who cared for his well-being:

"Michael Oher grew up in inner-city Memphis. In and out of foster care, Michael’s lucky break came when his dying grandmother extracted a promise from a family friend to get Michael into a private school.
Michael was enrolled in a private Christian school called Briarcrest. On a cold day, a parent of another Briarcrest student found Michael breaking into the school to stay warm. The parent, Leah Anne Tuohy, a successful interior designer and wife of a Memphis businessman, took Michael in. Despite the fact that Michael scarcely spoke, a bond developed between the Tuohys and Michael and they eventually adopted him.
Although he had never played sports Michael was a natural athlete and was identified immediately by college scouts as a potential NFL left tackle. If Michael could get to college and play football, he was very likely to win a multimillion dollar contract to protect a quarterback’s blind side.
The Tuohys and the faculty at Briarcrest engaged in a Herculean effort to make Michael eligible for college. When Michael came to Briarcrest he had only erratically attended school, could scarcely read and knew little about anything.
Lewis skillfully explains the role of poverty in education, writing, “Michael wasn’t stupid. He was ignorant, but a lot of people mistook ignorance for stupidity, and knowingness for intelligence. He’d been denied the life experience that led to knowingness, which every other kid at Briarcrest took for granted.”
Michael was not unintelligent, but he was profoundly uneducated. Leah Anne would, for example, take Michael to an Italian restaurant and order multiple meals in order teach him the difference between different types of pasta dishes.
The implications of Michael’s story for public policy are profound as well. Lewis writes, “Michael Oher was in possession of what had to be among the more conspicuous athletic gifts…and yet, without outside intervention even his talent would likely have been thrown away…If Michael Oher’s talent could be missed, whose couldn’t? Those poor black kids [in the inner-city] were like left tackles: people whose values were hidden in plain sight.”
With a committed family, school, and private tutors, Michael was accepted to college.
Today he is approaching his senior year at the University of Mississippi, made all-conference as a sophomore and junior, and carries a 3.7 grade point average.
Michael made it. But he is very much the exception. For every six inner-city Memphis public school kids with the athletic ability to play college sports, only one qualifies academically to attend college. This says something about the state of inner-city public education."

Let's be honest: the gregarious nature of the white family to spend vast amounts of money to ensure that Mr. Oher was eligible to play football is the sole reason why the Chinese are buying United States debt, for the Chinese are so worried about the melancholy existence of Black people in the inner-cities of America.

Of course, not everyone shares the exuberance that SBPDL does for the film (release date set for 11/20/09):

"The book is an analysis of the evolution of the left tackle position, using as illustration the story of why seemingly every rich white person in West Memphis was willing to bend over backwards for a young, disadvantaged man who perfectly fit the physical specs of an LT. It tells the story of Michael Oher, a black teen who out of sheer luck ends up at a nearly all-white prep school. His coaches and other school parents see his potential as a pro athlete and take him under their wing.
I loved Michael Lewis' book for a couple of reasons. First of all, I love football, and offensive linemen are my favorite unsung heroes of the game, so the fact that Lewis focused on their work was fascinating for me. But the book also brings up some pretty heavy issues for discussion (though certainly not as in-depth as I would've liked), namely: if Michael Oher weighed 90 pounds soaking wet and showed zero athletic ability, would the well-off families who helped him still have put so much effort into his rescue? Would his adoptive parents and school officials have worked so hard to get him into college? Had the family who wanted to pull him out of his horrific upbringing NOT been wealthy, influential and white, would they have been able to quasi-adopt him?
There are several places in the book where Michael is torn between returning home to his estranged mother and staying with his adoptive family. He also wants to play basketball, but his benefactors push him into football because he's such a perfectly prototypical left tackle. (Football FYI: after quarterbacks, left tackles are, on average, the highest-paid offensive players in the NFL.)
This story is tailor-made for Hollywood, with all the big issues - race, class, redemption. Unfortunately, from the looks of the trailer, the film version of "The Blind Side" seems to center on the wife and mother of the family who takes Michael in. Not surprising, since she's played by Sandra Bullock. Sure, it's easier to get a film made if you can turn it into a vehicle for a star. But I'm disappointed to see that Michael's voice appears to be many rungs down on the importance ladder, as compared to Sandra.
Race, and class-based racism, played such enormous roles in Michael Oher's youth. As a teen, the kid had something like a first-grade reading level. That scene in the trailer about him never having had his own bed was straight out of the book. And the social agencies that were supposed to protect him lost track of him for years. I'm glad that Oher managed to get out of this situation (after a few years at Ole Miss, the Baltimore Ravens drafted him in the first round earlier this year). But there are thousands of other kids out there in the same circumstances who don't have his luck and physical gifts that, at the moment, happen to be in demand by pro teams.
I sincerely hope that this movie version doesn't ignore those realities in favor of giving us yet another iteration of Caucasian Mighty Mouse is Here to Save the Day."
Stuff Black People Don't Like strongly endorses The Michael Oher Story and the movie The Blind Side for all to see, for Disingenuous White Liberals and Crusading White Pedagogues worldview will be available for all to see in this film.

The thesis of the film: all Black children should be removed from their parents pronto, so that they can be privy to the glorious family setting that white people provide, for only a white family can provide stability (you have to love the movie poster for the film... a white woman pushing a large Black man to the promised land of football glory and NFL riches).

For only Miss Congeniality herself (Bullock) could dare bestow wisdom and intelligence upon Oher, and yet, Stuff Black People Don't Like includes the Michael Oher story. If you can't figure out why, then you don't understand SBPDL.





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Anonymous said...

This is such an ignorant, racist blog. Want to keep racism alive and well? Keep on bogging, idiots. Yes- children should be taken away from their parents if they are cracked out. What negative role does skin color play in this story? None. In fact it's realistic. How about taking responsibility for yourself? Is that something you don't like???

Anonymous said...

WOW! You could have saved a lot of time and space by merely stating you are a racist and disagree with what the Touhy's did for Oher. I also noted a hint of envy for Oher as well. Your entire blog translated to how dare this white family do this for a black man!

Anonymous said...

Dude you're pretty racist... and on top of that you're not even funny. If you're going to try to rip off someone else's idea (stuff white people like) at least have the decency to be good at it.

Anonymous said...

I hope God does not see color - only people and their true goodness. I hope one day MLK's dream will REALLY come true, and a description of a person will not be first stated as black, white, yellow, etc - but tall, short, honest, loving, or other descriptions that you could define a person you knew even if you were blind and could not visualize race. I don't understand how an act of such kindness could ever seem racist.

Anonymous said...

I agree, when each and everyone of us is asked "what is your race?", we should come together and state my race is "human", not black, white, etc. Can you all imagine if this spread and truly worked, what a different world we would be living in. One where everyone is equal. I understand people can be difficult and have their opinions sometimes regardless of what race they are, but come on something has to give at some point. Lets raise our children not to hear this and teach them everyone is the same.

Stuff Black People Don't Like said...

Last Anon,

Everyone isn't the same. No two people are the same (not even twins).

Even Barack Obama put "African American" on his census form... rebuking any notion of post-racial idealism.

Anonymous said...

I understand why you would hope that God, and for that matter, people to not see "color". I would rather respect and honor each others color, race and culture, not ignore it!

Anonymous said...

I saw the movie and loved it. It's a story about opening your heart and the ability to love. As for the spin towards the mother versus the child, we know the obvious (the happy ending already) in the story is the portrait of the love of a mother for a son and the fight to make a difference in her child's life. The force behind what made him who he is today. His adoptive mother was a strong woman and pushed all three of her children to excel that is why she is portrayed as such. A mother's love goes a long way as portrayed in the story.

Anonymous said...

Anyone who tries to suggest that the story of Michael Oher is something other than a story of compassion between people, regardless of race, is a race baiter. The same people that stand for the ilk of other race baiters and the entire industry that has arisen - see Rev. Jesse Jackson, Rev. Al Sharpton, etc. The race baiters need conflict for their own success. Stories of compassion like this scare the race baiters to their bare bones because it takes away from the control they have over many in the AA community.

Anonymous said...

Wow! I had to finish reading this so I would get the "picture" so to speak.This post will be in 2 parts: I grew up in the projects and foster care, in Akron/Youngstown, Ohio. Then I was adopted into an abusive home. My biological mother was a prostitute because my birth father-her pimp did not want to work...Because I am stubborn (or is that determined) I had to fight every step of the way in my life for everything. Do you not see that Michael was quietly, fighting for his life? How many times are we offered help, but we stubbornly or pridefully refuse it? But more often do most of us not get out of our comfort zone to help someone else? How many times have you had the urging to do something...yet you do not follow through because of fear, uncertainty, they may say no...whatever---we all have many opportunities to become a hero...If we try to quietly help someone--they may become the next Attorney General--come up with a cure for cancer...if everyone did 1 act of kindness every day--how much would our "hoods" and communities be improved!!! We all have gifts and talents and experiences that can enrich other lives...we can always learn something from others. I may do something different than you--does that make me wrong and you right? No -it means we come at things from different perspectives-as long as NO ONE is getting hurt; there may be no right or wrong just different! This country was founded as a REPUBLIC--a melting pot of ideas, beliefs, and cultures....How many countries even today 2010 still actively capture and torture slaves? Too many to keep track of...In this country we have so many opportunities--most do not take them. For instance, our right to vote...How many Americans have died fighting for that right? TOO MANY!!! yet only a small percentage of persons do follow through with voting? Too FEW it is a shame. In so many countries persons have to walk for days to cast their vote...we need to go online or go to several buildings in nearly every city-show a picture ID and a piece of mail--we are now registered to vote...We as Americans and citizens of the HUMAN RACE need to get down and get educated on several fronts--then we need to get off our DUFFS and do something-vote responsibly-be heard, and make positive decisions for our families, four communities, for our state, for our country, now we can go and help others make a difference in our world...See how that expands outward versus becoming bitter/mean/hateful/and foolish-ignorance means we did not have the means/opportunity to learn--IN 2010; there is no excuse for foolishness !!!
You do not think persons will personally sacrifice to help others? Well, we do not have cable, have very little personal debt, we go to library weekly to get books for personal interest as well as current releases and old journals of early Americans, etc. We do not have the funds for college--but we are self teaching ourselves and our children to read/and think/fell/ and inspire them to make a difference...By the way, we also personally sacrifice over half our income to help those who are going through Domestic Violence/Assault/medical crisis/military personnel returning from war and suffering from PTSS; At Risk Teens, and families in crisis...
Melissa
Helping Hurting Children & Their Families!!!

Anonymous said...

This is part 2: If they will even post both parts I will be surprised!

We are sacrificing our personal time/funding so we can help inspire and encourage others to become a better young man or young woman--We have served every ethnicity in Ohio, met several families from 18 foreign countries--we respected each and every person and were enriched to see glimpse of their culture...we value life be it 3 days old, 98 years old, we are here to improve our world; we recycle and add no products to the landfills--we used cloth diapers when our children were younger-, we can vegetables so we are reusing our mason jars lots of times, we live simply, in a mobile home on rented property. We could have a home in a better neighborhood...but we choose to live simply so we can help others.I am inner city born and bred and I leave a very small imprint on my environment....I carry no consumer debt---I choose to rise above my past--to help other arise up from their pasts-to become better persons impacting our world---Does it really matter what race or political party I belong to?
Michael had several choices along the way-good and bad..he could have said no; he could have stolen them blind...but I think he was at a point where he saw that lifeline that was Mrs. T. He bravely accepted it. I remember growing up and Mr. T. was the epitome in my eyes of a Positive, Strong man, who talked about his beliefs and lived them out; I look at Mrs. T. and I see someone to admire---but I also admire Michael for accepting that lifeline and making the best of it. He could have just floated through life in his new home--but he pushed himself. Anyone who has raise teenagers knows:
YOU CANNOT MAKE A TEEN DO ANYTHING THAT THEY DO NOT WANT TO DO!!!! To the editor of this blog---if you are not doing 50% of what I am doing to make a positive difference, maybe you should go and do something constructive instead of polluting the world with your FOOLISHNESS and HATRED!
Melissa
Helping Hurting Children & Their Families!

geminipunch said...

I find your blog racist. Stuff black people don't like. Who are you to assume that ALL black people have the same likes/dislikes? Why are you propogating stereotypes? What a VERY RACIST thing to do. Shame on you. I suppose that you're not really that unintelligent rather that you're like Ann Coulter- you're just looking for attention through controversy. Congratulations you've got it! You have ticked alot of people off! Notice I said people and not 'blacks' or 'whites' as I don't believe in colour coding humans or in linking traits/personalities to a certain racial group. You have seriously undermined yourself through this blog.
Did you happen to know that Mr. Oher also received a degree in criminal studies? This is not about the perception that blacks can only find success in sports- that's your bias my friend.He chose of his own volition to continue in football, instead of pursuing a career in justice. Because he liked it. Who white black or green wouldn't want the opportunity to get paid well to do something they loved? No brainer there. And you know it really is actually quite 'heartwarming and touching' to know that there are good people out there and to know that this 'white burgoise family' gave Michael the support and unconditional love he needed in order to heal from the trauma of being raised in abject poverty by an addict. Notice addict, not black person as addiction has no face. What this movie hints at is that those who are more fortunate have a moral obligation to help those that are experiencing difficulties, point blank. I hope you learn something today.

Jim said...

Austin, Texas. Twenty years ago....

I ran a big-box retail store and had hired an attractive young black girl as one of our checkout operators. This girl was smart, efficient, and very proud of her heritage....proud to a fault (I know I'll hear about that!). All too many times she would come across as rude and indignant in her aloofness to our white customers, and I received a number of complaints about her attitude and coldness. Each time I would discuss this with her, and each time she said she would improve. This did not improve fast enough, however, so we had a very serious conversation about treating everyone equally (that being friendly, helpful, and sincere), stating that she would lose her job if we had just one more genuine complaint about her in this regard. We had actually grown rather close during these conversations trying to address and sort out the racial bias she showed to the whites....I actually said "you've GOT to get rid of the black chip on your shoulder and treat ALL of our customers well".

Well, she got it! She miraculously became the best at her job, so much so that we promoted her to run one of our high-volume departments. She was conscientious, meticulous, and excelled at this new job, all the while enjoying her interaction with customers of all races. She was happy, caring, and, in general, enjoying her new life as a contributor in the real world....until....

Jim said...

She made a mistake. We had advertised something at a certain price and a customer asked her if an item she had picked up was that adverised merchandise. Our girl said yes, she thought it was. A short time later, upon ringing up that customer, she realized that the item was NOT the one advertised but actually a much higher-priced one. Embarassed for having mis-spoke to the customer, she excused herself to ask upper-management if she could sell this higher-priced item to the customer for the sale price. I was away for a business meeting so our assistant manager got the story and told our girl to politely apologize to the customer, NOT sell the item for the sale price, and point out the actual item that was specifically advertised in the paper.

She went back to her department, apparently debating how to tell the customer that she had erred, and decided to avoid the embarrassment by selling it to the customer anyway, without discussion of any kind.

I heard of this later that afternoon (when I was reachable). My assistant told me that, when asking our department manager about this customer situation a short time later to see if everything had gone okay, she was told the story honestly, as stated above. I told my assistant to send our girl home, as she had disobeyed a specific direction by her boss, and that I would talk to her the following day.

I let her go that next day, discussing the repercussions of insubordination, emphasizing to the young lady that if she did indeed want to avoid the embarrassment of having told a customer something by mistake and trying to correct it, she could have asked her boss to help explain it to that customer. I was distraught over this, seeing that this girl had come so far over the course of a year in so many ways. By the end of our final conversation she too was regretful and heartbroken, but truly seemed to understand why she was losing her job.

Until....

Jim said...

She returned to her support base, whatever that was. Unemployment turned her down, as she was fired for cause. She got convinced by people she knew that it had to be a black thing, so a hearing was scheduled to determine the facts. Upon arriving at the hearing, in she walks being represented by a prominent black woman lawyer AND one of the local female leaders of the NAACP.

Everyone is introduced, we all sit down. Our ex-employee sits smugly at the head of the table, me at the opposite end, my assistant alongside the left of the table, and the two representatives alongside the right. I am asked specific questions by the two noteworthy representatives, including "Did you not tell ***** that if she had even one more customer complaint she would be fired?" I answered yes, a year before. Then "It was in *****'s mind that to avoid a complaint she decided to satisfy the customer by selling the item at the price she had quoted", to which I answered that she had specifically been directed not to do that. Then race was brought in, the 'black-chip on her shoulder' comment. After explaining the history which led to the comment, then stating how the girl had seemingly understood and overcome her barriers, I paused, then sighed. I looked at the our ex-employee, then the two woman representing her, and said "Look....there's nothing racial here. She did a good job and had improved enough to get promoted to an important position in our store. Then, due to embarrassment or ego, directly disobeyed her assistant manager to avoid having to admit to a customer she was wrong. That's all there is to this". Then, looking directly at the NAACP rep, I said "I have always thought that the NAACP was a good and necessary thing to fight for the rights of blacks....legitimate rights. In my opinion, the worst thing that could happen is for you and your organization to let this girl think that it's okay to convert a legitimate firing into a racial issue....it's wrong, and what does this girl learn? That she's not responsible for her actions? That it couldn't be her, that it's a black thing? Doesn't this perpetuate the wrong idea? If this is what you do now, then the NAACP stands for the wrong thing, if anything at all. Don't teach this young lady that this is okay, because it is NOT".

Well, to sum up, the hearing ended and we all went our separate ways. Later that afternoon I got a call from the female lawyer who informed me (first saying that she really shouldn't be making the call) that she and the NAACP rep would no longer be representing their client (my ex-employee), and she thanked me for my candidness at the hearing.

Wow! Did this restore my faith!

There is right and there is wrong, and I say that too many of us see things with shaded racial attachment either out of hatred or self-preserving necessity. Much of the world operates without racism or bias yet somehow the naysayers find it necessary to hurl their muddy interpretations or opinions to the wall, hoping it'll stick.

Don't let it. Hurray for Michael Oher and the Tuoys!

Anonymous said...

How can you tell a white owl from a black owl???
The white owl says "Who", "Who"....
The Black owl says..."Who dare...Who dare"

POWER TO THE PEOPLE....Y'ALL!!!

Anonymous said...

SBPDL: Most of these people are too ignorant and oblivious to even understand the basic ideas this site is offering. Their liberal indoctrination is a mighty beast indeed.

What all of you antis here fail to realize is this: we were all indoctrinated into the same thought control, propaganda...it's just that some of of have woken up to - REALITY. I watched the interview video above with the real family and even though I can understand the "big picture" of what SBPDL is trying to say...and it's true folks...I still can't help feeling happy for Michael. Sorry SBPDL.

What does this mean? It means taking a story like this and seeing both sides is possible people.

What if the world you think you know...the one you've been taught to believe...is not what you've been taught? What now?

I agree with most of what this site/blog is about...it's just honest, real.

Having said this, I don't hate black people.

I just don't.

But something has got to change...

Keep telling like it is SBPDL.

Anonymous said...

This is a ridiculous post. I'm not white, I'm not black. I'm a minority. I saw the movie, and it moved me. Geez, whoever wrote this is a hateful person and really, as intelligent as he wants to make himself sound, is really moronic and ignorant himself. You are the reason there is hate in peoples hearts.
This shouldn't be a site of "Stuff Black People Don't Like," it should be a site of "Stuff A Lonely Sad Black Person Doesn't Like."
From the majority of what I read here, the people posting in opposition to you ARE BLACK!
God forbid a HUMAN BEING actually has a heart to help another HUMAN BEING OUT. God forbid they're well to do, God forbid they're white and he's black.
I pray to God you don't have children or are trying to teach them that you're point of view is right. Ignorance at it's finest.

Anonymous said...

Wah, wah, boo hoo. I am an African American, shame on you whites, don't you know us black people are always the victims. Drama, Drama, boo hoo Wahhhhh!

Anonymous said...

Who cares about what Black People like anyway? You all complain when you don't get it, and complain when you do.

Anonymous said...

It seems to me that you are the racist. let it go. they happened to be white. he happens to be black. it actually happened. get over it and stop reaching! love sees no color. the only reason why racism exsists is because of people like you.

Anonymous said...

I have a little advise for everyone. GET A LIFE! Michael Oher did.

Mama Bear said...

For all the black people that hate this movie, your just pissed off because someone didn't try to help you out. If your bitter over this movie, then you deserve nothing more in life but to be where you are. This movie is an inspiration for all people to help each other. It doesn't matter what color your skin is, if you are truely deserving, then you should be helped out once in a while. There are too many of you black people that think you should have everything handed to you because your ancestors were slaves. Get over it! Get off your lazy ass' and get an education no matter what. If you want it, you can get it. Don't sit around and whine about how bad your life is, do something to change it. You are the way you are because you don't want to make the effort to change it. It's too easy to sit back and bitch about it. When I hear people whine, I tune it out. Now if you want to show me how much you want to change your life by doing something about it, I'll listen. It's all up to you. Decisions yours.

Anonymous said...

I really enjoy reading these posts. The ignorance just makes me laugh and question, how can people be so stupid? I’m not speaking to those of you who embraced the story, I’m sorry not just a story but, something that actually happened. I’m speaking of those of you throwing some kind of race card into this. This was a family of humans helping another human and just because they happened to have different skin color, the white people are horrible persons for trying to help? Really? What if this movie was flipped and it was a black family taking in a white family and you saw all of the same posts flipped? Would the Black family be evil for helping the white kid? Think about that, I mean really think about that. Just imagine a site just like this for whites, saying the same thing about the black family helping the white kid that most of you are saying. This was a great form of humanity and I wish there were more families like the Tuoys, white, black, or whatever color.

Anonymous said...

I really enjoy reading these posts. The ignorance just makes me laugh and question, how can people be so stupid? I’m not speaking to those of you who embraced the story, I’m sorry not just a story but, something that actually happened. I’m speaking of those of you throwing some kind of race card into this. This was a family of humans helping another human and just because they happened to have different skin color, the white people are horrible persons for trying to help? Really? What if this movie was flipped and it was a black family taking in a white family and you saw all of the same posts flipped? Would the Black family be evil for helping the white kid? Think about that, I mean really think about that. Just imagine a site just like this for whites, saying the same thing about the black family helping the white kid that most of you are saying. This was a great form of humanity and I wish there were more families like the Tuoys, white, black, or whatever color.

Anonymous said...

I just watched this movie tonight and as a child that had a crack head for a mother, didn't know her father, lived in the projects, went days without eating, and had to dodge bullets IN my home when a drug deal went bad, when I had a home that is, and so on and so on, I thought this was an uplifting story about people helping people. I think back to all the hell I was put through as an innocent child and wish I had someone, anyone, to truly care for me. I am WHITE, but does that really matter? I was most of all a CHILD in need of love!

ZuluGirl said...

How sad. I'm South African and was adopted by a white family whom I'm as close as blood to and in a country like mine, what they did was brave especially in 1974. Today I successfully run my own media agency at 35, once again in a country like mine that's an amazing feat. My alternative may have been great I'll never know, but because I had the luxury of private school education and attentive parenting I now am financially responsible for 7 kids who belong to my two sisters. Unless you've lived it you can't judge it. Don't be bitter, celebrate the generous 1% rather than celebrating mass ignorance. Just saying.

Anonymous said...

Just watched the movie the Blind Side,although my husband and I worked in Group Homes where we took in kids whos parents either didn't want them or couldn't take care of them, People always said that we wre special for taken in these young people and helping them turn their lifes around... always telling them that it was the kid that did it. this movie was very touching,knowing that there people out there that open their home and family to help Michael Oher. They wanted nothing for them just giving a home to a young man that had NO ONE to care for him. I give them 2 thumbs up. Because of them I'm sure that Michael will bea great role modle for other young kids, that grow up without leadership. Thanks for shareing Michael's story

Anonymous said...

Michael Oher graduated from Ol Miss.....he did not just spend "a few years" there, but received a BS in Criminal Justice and graduated on the Deans list.....

Anonymous said...

Where were any of you enlightened African Amaerican souls when Michael was freezing by the side of the road? If he had not become successful, you wouldn't have had an article or movie to comment on, would you? In fact, unlike the Touhys, you wouldn't even care. Finally, why do you care what color he is?

lynda thomas said...

oh god what is wrong with the people who wrote this blog!!! what ever race a person is does not matter if a child needs love and care and they are willing to do the right thing for the childern i wish them all the blessings in this unkind world we need more caring andloving people that know race does not matter

Anonymous said...

So sad that this story ever became an issue on a site like this. The article written sounds like a bitter, jealous person seething with anger from their own bad decisions. I love the Blind Side - Incredible movie and a must see - REGARDLESS OF RACE - GET OUT OF THE RACIAL RUT AND ENJOY being happy and caring about your brother / sister regardless of their skin color.

Anonymous said...

You have got to be kidding me. What this website says is a joke. It's always something. They are criticizing a family for helping someone? Who cares about what color the family or Oher is--someone helped someone else in need.

Brenda Bickerstaff said...

Brenda Bickerstaff Writes:

I just saw the Blind Side Today, and I have read all the comments posted, and there is one key point that was overlooked. Many times when children are adopted through the Children and Families through out the world, the adoptive parents often does not want the child to know who their biological parents are, and in the move, Michael's adoptive mother challenge the adoptive agency and went to visit his mother. I thought that was a powerful connection between both Leigh Ann and his biological mother. Because many times it is a disconnect between the adoptive parents and the biological parents. I am a private investigator and I have some many clients who was adopted and later as adults they want to know who their biological family is and in the movie, even though Michael's mother had an addiction Leigh Ann did not want to separate her from her son Michael, and I thought that was very powerful because every person has a right to know their true identity and know where they come from and they have a right to make a choice if they choose to associate themselves with their biological family.

Anonymous said...

im sick of white folks and blacks folks

Anonymous said...

This website is proof that racism is a 2 way street, i am a white student at an HBCU, i have a black girlfriend and all my friends are black, but would you believe that most of the racial comments i hear come from african-americans, not whites.........so some white family helped a young black man out...big deal! why can't people just be happy for Michael? why do people insist on race being the first issue in this story. You want to concentrate on the fact that it was a white family.......but no one seems to think its a big deal that his mother basically abadoned him, and the system lost him for years.....this family did something great for that young man.......and you should all be ashamed that you can't just see the good in that.........P.S. whoever said that the family had something to gain from Michael going pro must have forgotten that the man that adopted him owns like every Taco Bell and KFC within like 100 miles of Memphis. They didn't need the money....that was just a cheap shot....and you should be ashamed that you still think like its 1810 and not 2010.

Anonymous said...

Yes, SBPDL, the liberal "headwash" is powerful indeed. ONE well-propagandized story of the success (with racio-sexual undertones, to be sure... it is after all a Hollywood production) of a person with black skin, and any further discussion about the engineered demise of the European American heritage is off the table. (All racial crimes against Euros don't exist; black degeneracy is really the fault of the Euros; etc., etc.) Why don't you stupid lemmings run off the cliff now... eliminate a bit of pointless CO2 production. LOL!!!

Anonymous said...

"The Blind Side" film which I just viewed LAST NITE, moved me to want to adopt a child as I am unable to conceive one anymore (NO I AM NOT OLD EITHER) and you know what??? I am NOT RICH, BUT, I have A LOT of love, nurturing and understanding to give...I don't need an infant, to adopt nor a certain race either!!! I AM SO SICK AND FUCKING TIRED OF BLACK PEOPLE PLAYING THE RACE CARD...I AM SICK OF BLACK PEOPLE ACTING LIKE WHITE PEOPLE OWE THEM SOMETHING AND THEN WHEN "WHITE PEOPLE DO SOMETHING FOR A BLACK PERSON" THEY FUCKING BITCH ABOUT THAT TOO!!!!...OPRAH WINFREY BEING THE BIGGEST OF THEM ALL DURING THE PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION!!!! AND I DID VOTE FOR OBAMA!!!! DAMMIT YOU PEOPLE WHO WROTE SHITTY COMMENTS ABOUT THIS STORY NEED TO SHUT THE FUCK UP AND BE HAPPY SOMEONE DID ADOPT ANOTHER HUMAN BEING THAT NEEDED HELP AND PROVIDED A LIFE FOR HIM TO LIVE UP TO HIS POTENTIAL AND BEAT THE ODDS!!!! LEAVE COLOR OUT OF IT ONE FAMILY ADOPTED A KID WHO NEEDED A HOME END OF STORY!!

Anonymous said...

I am a white male in my 40's. If I were in a position to help someone out being they were black, white, or purple, I would do so !!!
I often hear people speak of "Don't hate",
Why do people hate the family that has done this, and why can't they be happy for Michael??

Unknown said...

While this story may be unrealistic, it IS true...No, you don't have to be taken in by a rich, white family to become successful, if you're Black-this is evidenced by TONS of successful Black Americans who were raised by Black families-but maybe this story really shows that we as Black Americans need to STEP-UP and help our own, so that white families like this won't have to! Yes, successful Black Americans are known for donating to charitable causes, but realistically, how many rich Black families have opened their hearts AND their homes to impoverished youths the way that the Tuohys did for Michael Oher?! If they would not have stepped-up for Oher the way that they did, then who would? I say KUDOS to the Tuohys for their incredible acts of kindness, and if it makes Blacks feel guilty for not giving a helping hand to each other, then to HELL WITH THEM!!!

Anonymous said...

I loved The Blind Side and to me it was only an inspiration for me to help others who need help in my community. If you want to make the movie into a racial issue that is your choice. However, I choose to not see these people in colors, but in how they treat each other. I choose to live my life based on who I am inside, rather than the color I am. Therefore, people respect me and befriend me whether they're black, white, pink, gray, purple, etc. Stop looking at everyone in color, but look at what is inside a person. Then you will truly be someone to admire. I hope the person who created this blog will read this and realize how incredibly immature/prejudice he or she is.

Anonymous said...

Why can't it just be that a family did a good thing for someone that was down on his luck. Quit reading such negative crap into it. Are you mad that someone didn't rescue you????? This family would've done it for anyone...black, white, red, brown, or yellow. They're just good people. Leave it at that. This was a good story, with a great ending. Get over yourselves.

Anonymous said...

Simple, a fortunate group of HUMAN beings were given the chance to help another HUMAN being in need and they did it with common sense. You know, that endangered resource where you use your intelligence, work ethic and empathy to fashion a successful life? Then, Michael Oher, being obviously full of common sense used it to help himself succeed. All other drivel is irrelevant and if more people just focussed on getting their crap together and using common sense they might be successful as well and make the world better for all.

Anonymous said...

The creator of this site is a racist idiot. This is one of the many reasons why racism won't die. As long as you're running your mouth, spewing hate, it will all remain the same. You should seriously find a hobby away from a computer.

What exactly is the problem with a white family adopting a black child or vice versa? It's not about racism. It's about being human and helping someone who needs it. Some people can't have their own babies. That's why they adopt. I had 5 miscarriages before I finally got pregnant with my daughter. My husband and I were contemplating adoption and I didn't care what color that child was. I just wanted a child to love and nurture. What's wrong with that?

Anonymous said...

I'm sure Michael Oher thinks you racist blacks are idiots. There are good people everywhere regardless of color and The Touheys are good people. Get a job, stop leaving your families and be accountable for your actions or you're as bad or worse than all the ILLEGAL MEXICANS who take advantage of our country! Sorry ass MF's!

Anonymous said...

Sandra Bulloch does have a sweet ass!

Anonymous said...

anyone who can't find the postive in this story are just jealous!!!! how dare you be so insensitive! there are TONS of kind people in the world and think how lucky michael was to be given a break. are you pitying yourselves because you didn't get the same break??? get over yourselves and open your heart!

Anonymous said...

stuff WHITE people don't like....idiots such as those who feel sorry for themselves b/c they weren't as fortunate as michael oher...or the many OTHERS both black and white who were given a break!!
*and yes, what a STUPID blog!

Anonymous said...

Oh my god! You people! Get over yourselves!!!! Does it matter about colour?! Really?! If it does with you, then you yourself can call yourself racist. A HUMAN BEING HELPING ANOTHER HUMAN BEING! BASED ON A TRUE STORY!!!!!

Brenda Jones said...

Why is it so hard for black people to accept the good in most white people? Granted, not all white people feel comfortable around black people but isn't that true with all races to some extent.
I am an Irish American but have never stepped foot outside America! My husband is German but again has never been out of America. My husband was not a Nazi and I was not a poor Irish immigrant that lost my land to the rich! Black people hold on to a past that they were never a part of and call white people racist when the truth be known, they are the most racist of all. They were never slaves, nor were their parents or grandparents before them but they hold on to that like it is a lifeline when in truth if they would let it go they would see that whites and blacks can live together peacefully and get along great! I have many black friends and I hope they feel as strongly about me.
I believe the Tuohys took in a young man that needed love, not because he was black or a good athlete but because they saw someone in need and wanted to help. Why is that so hard for people to accept?

Anonymous said...

Thank God there are people in the world who do reach out and help others. Quite frankly, whether they be black, white or otherwise, I hope that more people will be willing to reach out to care for the many children in need of help (whether they need foster care or adoption). Right now, there are thousands of couples looking to adopt children (regardless of race) who are in need of homes. It can take a couple 1 to 4 years to receive a child; if an infant is put up for adoption (regardless of race) they are guaranteed to be placed with a waiting family. I'm sure that the children placed in waiting homes don't begrudge those who lovingly care for them or judge their adoptive parents as harshly as the author of this article. As a waiting adoptive parent, I personally can say that we want the best for our children & don't look at parenting as a means of profit in any way.

Gr8teetee said...

I think anytine a person helps someone they don't have to help that's a good thing, and how many black famailies would have took him in not knowing anything about him or without expecting anything at all, I don't see the problem with these people giving him a good life, which I think he deserved.

Anonymous said...

I think you all should take a look at yourself i was raised by white and black and i will tell you dude your a ass you are just jealious you need to grow up ...all my life i was called zebra,oreo,and whatever you need to quit being rediculous ,whites are no better then blacks and blacks are no better then whites.As far as i am concern you need to jump a bridge.life is to short for this black and white deal,pull up our skin and we all are rede

Anonymous said...

Why must we be so idiotic? I am a Black American that was happy to see that someone took an interest in this person (black or white). The person that wrote this really need to stop hating. I am going to assume that because you felt so negative about this that you can show proof, via this site, that you have brought a number of Black Americans into your home and helped them get a start in life. What are you doing to solve the problem. We sure are good at identifying problems but can never come forward with a solution or a helping hand. Provide solutions not problems in 2011.

Anonymous said...

I don't see why a white has to adopt a black kid. White women are having enough black kids of their own. Besides, who do you think pays for all those food stamps, welfare checks, public housing, free medical, free school lunches, ad infinitum? How many whites have been denied jobs, professions, careers, et al because of affirmitive action, another name for racial discrimination?
For whites the road to hell is paved with affirmitive action and welfare to the so-called minorities. "Minorities", you know that 92 percent of the world's population.

Anonymous said...

I hv prayed for everyone that was negative, ur welcome-

Anonymous said...

My question is: Why is it that "black" is capitalized and "white" is not by this writer?
That is basically the basis of this article.

Anonymous said...

In reality he taught himself about football, and had a lively personality and a foster mom who encouraged him. There were Blacks in his hood who inspired him ,but the move showed all the Blacks he encountered as mean,ignorant and the whites smiling and loving. It would have been nice to see an ambitious Black teen pulling himself up by his own bootstraps who meets others who assist him. If he were white I don't think he would have been portrayed as so brain dead/ void of personality.

amina said...

Why are his personality and ambition as well as positive Blacks he met in life ignored by the film producers. He says he was a football expert on his own. Why give whites the credit for this in the film ? IS it propaganda ?. Can we see a smart, ambitious Black man or does he have to appear nearly brain dead in order to appear non threatening ?

Anonymous said...

I'm black and I loved this movie, the book and the book that Michael Oher himself just put out. Like someone said above what isn't to like about this story? So what if it was a white family who took this kid in. My mom took in my older sisters best friend who was white after her parents kicked her out for being gay and THEN paid for her first semester of college! And we are hardly made of money, my mom gets no help from my dad and works two jobs! Who the hell cares if a black woman takes in a white girl, or a white family takes in a black boy...let's just be thankful that there are some people in the world who actually DO what others just talk about.

Anonymous said...

What about the Cornbread???

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